This-essay is a9906021.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %TRANSCEND CONFLICTS CONTENTIOUS LEADERS COLLUSIONS+990602 %AVOID OVERT COERCION VIOLENCE CONTESTS CHALLENGES+990602 %PEACEMAKERS STRATEGY DESCRIPTIONS OPEN HONESTY 990602 It is rarely fruitful to engage in coercive contests, conflicts and contentious exchanges with: (1) people who specialize in such activities --- and who rarely engage in much else. Using their tactics on them bears the bitter fruits of defeat --- because their tactics are self-defeating. Likewise it is rarely fruitful to engage in overt contests, conflicts and contentious exchanges with: 2. People who are preoccupied with issues of control. 3. Leaders and participants in collusive games of mutual self deception. 4. Arrogant people who self-righteously believe that they are superior to others --- who are obviously inferior to them. 5. Insecure people who fearfully seek to achieve security through defensive technologies intended to make them invulnerable; for they equate security with invulnerability. Coercive attacks upon people usually make those people who are attacked more fearful, insecure, defensive, offensive, dishonest, distrustful, etc. Coercive attacks rarely resolve conflicts. Helpful progress toward conflict resolution can be made by transcending the disintegrative ways described above --- by graciously describing better ways in which people have transcended the alienative consequences of the disintegrative ways described above. This may most helpfully be done while avoiding direct attacks on specific people. Those who are ready, willing and able to perceive how dysfunctional such people are --- can be helped by graceful descriptions of them without naming them in any specific way. Such people are often playing deadly collusive games of mutual self deception --- and so are usually unable to recognize when their behavior patterns are being described. People who might otherwise fall into playing their deadly games may be enlightened by gracious descriptions which transcend the deadly games. Such enlightenment is not engendered by overt attacks. Often the best that can be expected is that the people who are playing deadly collusive games of mutual self deception will die without their being made more insecure, defensive, and offensive by overt attacks upon them as dysfunctional persons. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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