This-essay is a9903131.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %ELIMINATE BAD DEVIL DEFECT IMPERFECT DIFFERENCES+990313 %RESOLVE CONFLICTS PEACEMAKER CONFLICT CONTEST SIN 990313 Some insecure people are distressed by differences between human beings. They personally regard differences as signs of defects, imperfections, failures, disloyalty, etc. Such insecure people are often dedicated to the elimination of differences and/or of people who are the incarnation of differences. Such insecure people are often intolerant of differences. and of people who tolerate differences. Conflicts between different people are not inevitable manifestations of their differences. Conflicts between different people are manifestations of the insecurity of insecure people who are distressed by differences between people. Insecure people cannot believe that differences between people were created by God for good; to serve as the foundations of creative cooperative work together. Insecure people feel secure only with people who will not differ with them on how people should believe, feel, think, desire, fear and behave --- with people who are NOT DIFFERENT. Insecure people do not truly seek to understand people who are different --- because insecure people's fears lead them to create and maintain alienative relationships with people who are "different". True conflict resolution is unthinkable for them --- for it is easier for them to manage people who are confused, misinformed, and thoughtless --- due to managed conflicts. We need to learn to know and enjoy security as the freedom to be safely vulnerable in intimate dialogue which is open and honest; rather than regard security as being rooted in our achievement of invulnerability. Only then will be be able to build creatively upon our differences --- and enjoy the sweet fruits of cooperatively working together in ways which take advantage of our differences. Insecure people often seek to achieve security through technologies of control --- which are designed to make people who are different to appear to conform to standard patterns of appearance. For such insecure people it is appearances which count; not open and honest dialogue within authentic personal relationships. They focus upon rules, commandments, regulations, prescriptions, proscriptions and other technologies of control --- which are indifferent to individual personal differences including people's different personal: heredities, heritages, cultures, families, experiences, abilities, fears, hopes, aspirations and creative potentials. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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