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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %IMPORTANCE DETACH ADDICTIVE CODEPENDENT ATTITUDES 900220 If we are the victims of any pattern of addictive, codependent and collusive attitudes and behaviors we may need to detach ourselves in mind, body, and spirit from the context of that pattern; as part of the process of regaining a healthy outlook on life and our creative potentials. Yet, we may be tempted to remain within the context to fight the evil which we see; to overcome it through our diligent and sacrificial efforts. Yielding to such a temptation is likely to lead us to continue to be preoccupied with the very patterns from which we would like to escape and must escape from to be healthy. To be preoccupied in a combative mode with addiction, codependence and collusions, is to be imprisoned by their attitudes and spirit; their patterns of thought and behavior. To try to be "good" people by fighting their evil is not different than to be fighting with them as "evil" people in alienative ways. "Good" addicts, codependents and colluders fight "evil" addicts, codependents and colluders according to the rules of addiction, codependence and collusions. Their battles are incarnations of the essence of addiction, codependence and collusions. The battles are not won; they are lost by all the combatants. The battles do not lead to resolution of conflicts, but to the continuation of conflicts and alienation. To win we must disengage from the combat, and seek serenity, tranquility and rebirth- recreation through prayer which is authentic rather than conformal. The battles end when the combatants disengage, detach and withdraw as expressions of mutual respect and love. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================