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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9002211.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %TENSION STRAIN ANXIETY COLLUSIVE DISHONESTY ADDICT 900221 Much tension, strain and anxiety is generated by our attempts to maintain the appearance of personal integrity within the context of the misleading behaviors which are so characteristic of collusive addictions and codependent networks of support. When the structure of our thought patterns and our corresponding behavior patterns lacks integrity, it takes constant effort to try to keep the pieces together, and even more effort to try to make them appear to be hanging together naturally as a coherent whole. It is bad enough to try to deceive others; it is even harder to play the game of mutual self deception within our own selves in a self convincing way. As we try to appear to ourselves to be whole (when we are not) it takes much energy to maintain our own pattern of self deception; much tension, strain and anxiety is generated. It is not easy to pretend to be able to do more than our limited resources, time and energy permit, to be more competent than we are, to be more confident than we really are. Maintaining pretenses drains us of much energy, leaving little energy for creative work. We could do more, be more creative, and live happier lives if we could learn to be honest with ourselves and others. We need to help each other by giving to each other the gifts of contexts in which we can be secure while being open and honest. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================