This-essay is a8002281.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %NURTURING DESIRES/BEHAVIOR 800228 To the thoroughly objective annalist desires do not exist. Desires are not objective realities, and may properly be ignored. Only behavior can be known, and properly attended to. The thoroughly objective person thus seeks to control behavior, without regard to desires. Laws, constraints, rewards, punishments, etc. are devised according to objective research to control behavior, without seeking to be in dialogue about desires. Person to person reflexive communication is neglected. An alternative way is to nurture healthy desires which motivate wise behavior, letting the behavior flow spontaneously from healthy desires. This does not mean manipulating desires unilaterally. It means intimate personal dialogue in which healthy desires are affirmed and given opportunity for expression. Dialogue tends to moderate unhealthy asocial desires, and to promote healthy social desires. Dialogue is mutual. In the absence of mutuality there is no dialogue. Nurturing healthy desires is a mutual process, taking place in dialogue. Manipulation may be reciprocal, yet not be truly mutual. People may manipulate each other---without engaging in truly mutual relationships, without being in open and honest dialogue. Mutuality involves openness, honesty, candor, affection, respect, gentleness, etc. Through mutuality in dialogue we may nurture each other's healthy desires and free them to motivate wise behavior in spontaneous ways. Desires are neither good nor evil. We do no favor to pass judgment upon desires---so as to call them good or evil. Promoting dialogue is good. Inhibiting dialogue is evil. All other judgments about good and evil follow. It is good to be in dialogue about desires. It is evil to inhibit dialogue about desires. Dialogue regarding unhealthy desires is the means for promoting more healthy desires. Unhealthy desires/thoughts which are not shared in dialogue---may in alienation lead to action which will further inhibit dialogue. Desires which are nurtured in alienation because they are not "proper"---may grow into alienative behavior and occasion people to believe that the desires were themselves "evil", rather than recognize that the inhibition of dialogue about the desires was evil. Confusion about the nature of evil occasions inhibition of dialogue, which inhibition is evil, even though the confusion is not itself evil. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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