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This-essay is a7903032.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %UNFULFILLED DIALOGUE OPPORTUNITIES 790303 I looked into her steady eyes---which gazed without fear into mine. Why wasn't she afraid to look so deeply? Did I dare let her see so deeply? How could I keep her from seeing deeply? Was she naive in her youth, not knowing where such looking could lead? Didn't she know that being so unfearful and trusting could lead from one level of intimacy to another in a process which would likely get out of control? How much time and how much of herself was she willing to invest into the kind of relationship which might develop if we both let ourselves go? How much time and how much of myself would I have been able to invest in the development of the dialogue opportunities which were present in the meeting as such a deep level? What barriers to dialogue could we have lowered without creating tensions between present commitments and developing commitments which would destroy both us and our relationship? On what grounds could we keep the protective barriers up if we let the dialogue opportunities mature? I know from experience where such meetings can lead. Does she? How can I ask her if she knows, without thereby deepening our dialogue in a way which might lead to her seduction? How can I be fair to her and to the dialogue opportunities, in our relationship? To even attempt to jointly consider the opportunities is to go over the edge of the cliff into the dark valley---below which involves uncharted places having dimensions which we do not even know of yet---dimensions orthogonal to all the ways in which we have grown so far. Does she know that? How can I possibly tell her without pushing us over the edge? Can I be fair and just without asking, without telling? Can I be fair and just in asking, in telling? Who can decide such questions in an unbiased way? What are my motives? What do I fear? What do I desire? What are the conflicts of interest? What are the structures of this situation in a multi-dimensional space where most of the directions are orthogonal to everything which is familiar? Is there any map? Have others been here before us? Where did they leave any traces of how to move wisely in this context? What is the God of love saying? What can uninformed others helpfully tell us? (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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