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This-essay is a7807053.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %YOUR FRIEND'S PERSPECTIVES 780705 Your friend's perspectives are not necessarily like your own. What may seem obvious and beyond question to you, may seem very strange and hard to believe to your friend---and vice versa. Love will not automatically guide you, or your friend, to gain insights into what are the other's perspectives, desires, attitudes, emotions, fears, hopes, expectations, etc. Some of us have not enjoyed having helpful role models who might guide us to insights into our friends' contrasting perspectives. We may not even try in any meaningful way to seek insights into our friends' perspectives, thoughtlessly assuming that their perspectives are like our own. If our assumptions are incorrect, they can lead to a great deal of misunderstanding, frustration, disappointment, and pain. Gaining insight into your friends' perspectives can be very demanding, time consuming, and costly; and also very rewarding. Each time some misunderstanding arises, you may have an opportunity to discover a previously hidden difference in some fundamental unexamined assumption. Serious misunderstandings are likely to arise from very basic differences in perspectives. If you maintain dialogue in spite of serious misunderstandings, you may be able to come to a mutual awareness and a mutual understanding of some of the basic differences between you. When differences come to the surface, there may be a compulsive desire to decide which perspective is "right". Maybe such a decision is not necessary. It may be possible to affirm both perspectives (within appropriate contexts) without doing violence to anybody's integrity. To fail to affirm both perspectives appropriately may do violence to the integrity of one or the other. In other instances one perspective or the other may inevitable occasion violence to someone. Such an effect of a perspective should be recognized, appropriate steps be taken to minimize the violence and assure that the costs of such minimal violence is distributed equitably--- through decisions which are arrived at in an equitable way. Your friends' perspectives are not likely to be revealed to you if you approach them with the intent to discover (in an objective way) whether or not the perspectives are "right". Objective approaches are rarely friendly ones, and unfriendly approaches tend to block communication. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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