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This-essay is a9705291.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %RECIPROCAL REFLEXIVE BOUNDARIES COVENANTS INTIMACY+970529 %PERSONAL RELATIONS 970529 The best and most integrative of our commandments, guidelines and covenant texts --- helpfully call into question the inadequacies of our immature and conflict- ridden personal relationships. The best and most integrative of our mature personal relationships call into question the inadequacies of our immature and conflict ridden: prescriptions, proscriptions, rules, regulations, commandments, guidelines and/or covenant texts. There are serious hazards in worshiping what appear to us as unimaginably wonderful and closer personal relationships than we have ever known before --- without balanced consideration of wisely respected commandments, guidelines and covenant texts. There are serious hazards in worshipping what come and appear to as unimaginably perfect prescriptions, proscriptions, rules, regulations, commandments, guidelines and/or covenant texts --- without balanced consideration of wisely respected mature/intimate personal relationships which are not focused upon conformity of any form. People and communities of integrity manage to maintain balances between high regard for the best they know of prescriptions, proscriptions, rules, regulations, commandments, guidelines and covenant texts on the one hand ----- and the best they know of wisely respected kinds of mature/intimate personal relationships which are not focused upon conformity of any form. People and communities that idolize their best laws, without respect for the integrity of their most integrative, mature and intimate personal relationships --- thereby set in motion changes which lead to their personal and communal disintegrations. People and communities that idolize what they regard as their best people and personal relationships --- without respect for the integrity of their most integrative, mature and helpful laws --- thereby set in motion changes which lead to their personal and communal disintegration. The idolization of anything which humans have had a part in conceiving and perfecting is bound to lead toward personal and communal disintegration; for such idolization entails disintegrative pride, arrogance, and collusive games of mutual self deception. Recently dysfunctional people/relationships that have recently been liberated through the effective functioning of helpful laws --- are prone to idolize the best laws they know --- because they have learned about the limitations of imperfect humans/relationships. People/relationships that have recently idolized good laws and recently been liberated through the works of love (via integrative people/relationships) --- are prone to idolize the best people/relationships they know --- because they have learned about the limitations of imperfect laws and judicial procedures. Whether we regard the best laws/judiciaries or the best people/relationships with uncritical respect --- depends upon where we have most recently been severely disappointed with the imperfections in them. The best people/relationships embody wisdom in ways which no laws can capture and deliver reliably to people who are trapped because of dysfunctional people and relationships. The best laws/judiciaries can protect the poor, weak and alienated from the pride, arrogance and presumptuousness of dysfunctional people --- who in tragic ways have come to have greater power than they know how to use, or want to use, in integrative ways. Imbalance and rigidity leads to disintegration. Balance and flexibility are essential to personal and communal integrity. Beware of unbalanced and rigid people, relationships and laws. Robust people, relationships and communities are characterized by tolerance, balance, flexibility and integrity --- rather than by extremism, fanaticism, rigidity and exclusivity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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