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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %UNCONVENTIONAL INTIMACY CONFORMITY APPEARANCE LIFE+961205 %DECEPTIVE DISHONESTY COLLUSIVE RESPECTABILITY EVIL 961205 People who have not enjoyed true intimacy are often insecure, defensive, and prone to promote conformity to some conventional life style---or to promote appearances of conforming to some conventional life style. Their efforts are often rewarded by the mere appearance of conformity on the part of people who become skillful in appearing to be and behave as others expect them to behave---even though the "conformers" have to sacrifice personal and communal integrity to succeed in appearing to be conventional. Often it is mis-guided but well intentioned people whose efforts to promote conformity thereby lead others into collusive life styles of addiction and codependence. Once deception has been honored by well intentioned people who demand conformity --- deception is regarded as worthy of respect in other endeavors---and there is no substantive bar against the widening use of deception to gain personal advantages within the stultifying context of conformal communities. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================