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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %FOCUS PEOPLE LIVES ACCOMPLISH ACHIEVE RELATIONSHIP+961206 %KNOWLEDGE SKILL CONTACTS SUCCESS OWNERSHIP CONTROL+961206 %DOMINATE MANAGEMENT ADMINISTER LEADERSHIP CONFLICT 961206 Different people find satisfaction, joy, pride and/or security in different ways. Some ways lead to personal and communal integrity. Other ways lead to personal and communal disintegration. Some ways focus upon individual accomplishments, achievements, knowledge, skills, successes, ownership, dominance, management, administration, leadership, conflict, etc. Such ways often lead directly or indirectly to personal and communal disintegrations. Other ways focus upon the qualities of the RELATIONSHIPS between people; and upon how RELATIONSHIPS can become more open, honest, cooperative, creative, imaginative, intimate, meaningful and satisfying. Such ways often lead to greater personal and communal integrity---and to greater levels of enjoyment thereof. The people who are preoccupied with the first kind of ways often cannot imagine, or permit others to imagine, the latter integrative kinds of ways. The latter kinds of ways are likely to expose the superficiality of the former kinds of ways. Preoccupations with the foci of the former kinds of ways tend to undermine the possibility of continued healthy/integrative personal RELATIONSHIPS---and so undermine the possibility of communal integrity. Authentic interest in fulfilling the possibilities of the integrative ways leads naturally to healthy changes and to growth which enables people and communities to fulfill their unique potentials---in ways which are often non-conformal because they are truly creative. People who are interested in RELATIONSHIPS do not point fingers at individuals in judgmental/condemning ways. They seek to resolve conflicts in order to improve RELATIONSHIPS. RELATIONSHIPS are not improved by directing attention to individuals who are at-fault, guilty, shame-full, evil, wrong, mistaken, unacceptable, dispensable, etc. Neither are RELATIONSHIPS improved by directing special attention to individuals who are superior, perfect, better-than-others, fault-less, etc. RELATIONSHIPS are improved by working to improve the contexts within which people can honestly know security which is enjoyed as the freedom to be safely vulnerable in intimate relationships. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================