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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9501041.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %UNWISE FOOLISH BEHAVIOR CONFUSED FOCUS FEAR EVIL 950104 We are unwise and behave in foolish ways when we are confused and focus our fear inappropriately. We may have been taught to be confused and to focus our fear inappropriately---by people who profit thereby. We may have been the victims of conflicts, violence and chaos--- and thereby have been taught to be confused and to focus our fear inappropriately; with nobody truly gaining thereby. We may have internalized conflicting ideals and values and been confused by the internalized conflicts which we know not how to resolve---and so focus our fear unwisely. To recover and enjoy health, personal integrity and communal integrity we need to overcome our confusion about what it is most prudent to fear. It is not prudent to fear rejection by people who manipulate our fears---for they have already rejected us and are treating us as impersonal objects to be used and abused by them. They have no love to give to us and it is not prudent to fear that they will withhold what they do not have to give to us. People who offer conditional personal acceptance and love have no love to give; they are dishonest. It is prudent to fear their dishonest manipulations and abuse. It is not prudent to fear their rejection---for that is in the past. It is prudent to fear falling into the trap of respecting and being comfortable with that which we would be wise to fear. It is dangerous to be comfortable with and to respect the repression of and ignorance about our: experiences, perceptions, sensations, emotions, feelings, desires, hopes, aspirations, insights, and fears. Such comfort and respect are part of the reversal process which leads us into total confusion about what it is prudent to fear. When we fall into the trap of respecting and being comfortable with that which we would be wise to fear---we fear the ground of our being and all that God graciously supports: Love, honesty, truth, forgiveness, reconciliation, gentleness, humility, affection, intimacy, gifts of security, justice, kindness, peacemaking, etc. Such fear leads us to be comfortable with respecting all that wise people prudently fear: hate, dishonesty, deceptions, secret grudges, conflict maintenance, violence, arrogance, abuse, distrust, defensiveness, arbitrary revenge, capricious actions, prejudice, ignorance, confusion, meanness and war preparations. Collusive addicts and their codependent supporters fear all that God graciously supports and are comfortable with respecting all that wise people prudently fear. We have fallen into the trap of respecting evil if we are comfortable with, respect and support powerful people who are collusive addicts and their codependent supporters. Evil has to do with alienative RELATIONSHIPS. Alienative RELATIONSHIPS are the essence of evil. We have fallen into the trap of respecting evil relationships if we feel, think and believe that evil is a destructive power which resides more in some people than in other people; perhaps believing that it is most concentrated in THE DEVIL. If we have fallen into that trap we are bound to be defensive and preoccupied with passing judgment to deciding who is more evil than we are. Such evil people must be destroyed. In such a trap we are bound to alienate ourselves and each other through defensiveness, suspicions, deceptions and excommunicat- ions. Alienative RELATIONSHIPS entail two or more people. Evil resides in the alienation of the people from each other, not in the people who are alienated from each other. Blaming the other person for the imperfection in the relationship between you and another person has no chance of promoting the reconciliation which is essential to the transcendence of the alienation. We are wise when we fear alienation and work to transcend alienation through reconciliation, gifts of security, conflict resolution, and clarification of what it is prudent to fear. We are wise when we fear being confused about the difference between integrative ideals and values on the one hand, and disintegrative ideals and values on the other hand. Many highly respected ideals and values are tragically disintegrative. Many integrative ideals and values are feared by collusive addicts and their codependent supporters. They work together to keep us confused about what what kinds of fears are wise and what other kinds of fears are foolish. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================