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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9007071.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ADULT SCIENTIST PARENT CHILD FEEL EMOTION WAR GAME 900707 Many scientists have over-developed ADULTS inside them who have taken over the role of being PARENTS to the CHILDREN who are inside them. Their PARENTS of origin (through active and/or passive emotional abuse and/or absence) discouraged them from being in touch with their emotions, their feelings, the affective aspect of whole and healthy living. Many scientists do not feel that they have permission to be in touch with those aspects of themselves which are most uniquely their own: feelings, emotions, affect, yearnings, desires, fears, hopes, aspirations, etc. Their PARENTS of origin left them feeling that the proper thing to do was to be rational, reasonable, logical, systematic, precise, etc.; to cope with emotionally threatening and insecure situations. By training and circumstance the ADULTS inside the scientists were encouraged to become well developed and the CHILD inside each emotionally repressed scientist was repressed, stunted, not allowed to be expressive. In the absence of emotionally supportive and affectively expressive PARENTS in their families of origin scientists in their early lives learned to cope through the development of their ADULT capacities; but did not learn how to develop the potentials of the CHILD and the PARENT inside them who would have matured under more encouraging circumstances. Thus, such scientists lives are dominated by ADULT considerations in the absence of a healthy balance between CHILD-like and parental interests and concerns. They do not know how to nurture and support the CHILD within in the ways in which a healthy PARENT would; because they did not experience such nurture, support and encouragement in their own childhood. The world of most scientists is dominated by people in whom the ADULT is far more developed than is their CHILD or PARENT. It is not only the reality-within which misleads through the dominance of the ADULT within; the reality-outside in the professional scientific world is dominated by the ADULTS-within the professionals who do not know how to nurture and support the CHILD-within and PARENT-within each professional. The professional collusive games of mutual self deception of ADULT scientists are played by the ADULTS- within the professionals because they do not know how to be open and direct in the manner of emotionally healthy CHILDREN and emotionally healthy PARENTS. The addictions to pure research of ADULT professional scientists are dominant because scientists do not know how to be open and honest in the manner of emotionally healthy CHILDREN and emotionally healthy PARENTS. The networks of foolishly supportive codependents encourage scientists to be addicted to pure research, because the ADULTS within codependents do not know how to be open and honest in the manner of emotionally healthy CHILDREN and emotionally healthy PARENTS. Collusive addicts and codependents are overdeveloped ADULTS who do not know how to be open and honest in the manner of emotionally healthy CHILDREN and emotionally healthy PARENTS. Competent overdeveloped ADULTS are concerned with technical considerations, to the exclusion of concerns which typify the healthy CHILD and the healthy PARENT who are well balanced and attend to appropriate ADULT considerations. The competent overdeveloped ADULT excludes the considerations of the underdeveloped CHILD within and of the underdeveloped PARENT within. Competent overdeveloped ADULTS need to get in touch with the underdeveloped CHILD-within, and become aware of the passive and active abuse suffered by that CHILD and learn to listen to that CHILD-within. They need to become familiar with healthy PARENTS and encourage the growth and development of their own undeveloped PARENT-within, so that the CHILD-within may receive proper nurture, encouragement, support and affection. In the light of these considerations there may be hope that we can grow up and stop being technocrats who threaten each other in childish ways with weapons of mass destruction. War games are the addictive games of mutual self deception of emotionally immature overdeveloped ADULTS. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================