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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9007061.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ADULT VICTIM OF CHILDREN'S RECORDED INSTRUCTIONS 900706 Many adults are victims of uncritically followed recorded instructions from the child of their past. The child came to conclusions on the basis of a child's logic, emotions, data and morality; and recorded the instructions for future reference to deal with future situations, to which according to the child's thought processes the instructions might pertain. The child came to the conclusions in the context of trying circumstances. The recorded messages have to do with how to survive when dealing with manipulative adults, violent superiors, dishonest behavior, absent parents, and with people unable to give support and affectionate love, because they have none to give, because they had received none. The messages often have to do with impotence and how to gain power in a child's way. The child had to hide the conclusions from adults, so the child recorded the messages in ways which were/are hidden from adult view, and were/are hard for adults to discover and understand. Now the adult is following the recorded instructions uncritically, because the adult is unable to consciously discover what the child recorded. The adult of the child is subconsciously following the recorded advice, and is unable to consciously evaluate the propriety of the advice in terms of adult logic, emotions, morality, and data. The adult of the child needs to get in touch with the child who was out of touch with adults when the misleading messages were recorded. The adult needs to feel with their child what it was like in the child's context when the messages were recorded, and to mourn with the child in expressing the child's unshared grief over what was lacking and what was lost in unshared times of fear, joy, pain, hope, grief, and anticipation. Only then may the adult of the child be able to be honestly in touch with the messages from the past, and to see clearly if those messages are today wise messages in today's contexts. Failing that, the adult may be bound to subconsciously and compulsively obey the messages from the adult's inner child of today who is still out of touch with today's realities. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================