This-essay is a7812181.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %DISAGREEMENT CONFLICT LOVE 781218 Love is often misrepresented to mean that disagreements and conflicts should be eliminated. Love is misunderstood to mean the absence of disagreement and conflict. Such a misunderstanding motivates efforts to eliminate disagreement and conflict---on terms agreeable to the persons trying to eliminate the disagreements and conflicts. Thus, powerful people who think that they are doing what love bids, act in ways which promote the suppression and repression of disagreements and conflict, and failing that, the destruction of the sources of disagreement and conflict. Violence of all forms is thus promoted by the conviction that disagreements and conflict should be eliminated. The essence of love is honest communication and all that promotes honest communication which involves mutuality with respect for each other's vulnerability. Love promotes mutuality with respect to costs and benefits, and seeks justice in circumstances which involve disagreements and conflict. It is not essential to eliminate disagreements and conflict. What is essential is to respond to disagreements and conflict in ways which promote communication which is mutual, open, honest, respectful, etc. Efforts to eliminate disagreements and conflict often inhibit communication, and so undermine love whose essence is honest communication. Love seeks ways to live with differences, disagreements, and conflict; not ways to eliminate them. Human vitality depends upon creative living and communication of differences, disagreements, and conflict. Through differences, disagreements, and conflict love works to make all new by promoting new unions. The fear of differences, disagreements, and conflict prompts people to avoid unions, communication; to say no to the promptings of love. Fear misinterprets love and translates the promptings of love into legalistic ideals, principals, moral mandates, and ethical imperatives. Dedication to such creations of fear prompts people to undermine the communications which love promotes---and thereby set the stage for intensified differences, disagreements, and conflict. Love defends the rights of people to be different, to disagree, and to be in conflict with each other in open, mutual and honest communications. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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