This-essay is a7807103.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %PROBLEM 780710 Sometimes we cannot tell whether or not we have a problem. If we are compulsive problem solvers---and have no problem to solve---that may be a problem to us. If we fear fundamental problems, and are confronted by a basic problem---out of fear we may refuse to recognize that we have a problem. If the "problem" belongs to somebody else, and they do not regard the "problem" as a problem--- that may be a "problem" to us---and its being a "problem" to us, may be a real problem to them. If we feel that we cannot be loved unless we have a certifiable need to be met by another---we may feel that we have a problem in that we may feel unqualified to ask for love, without a certifiable need to justify our felt need for love. If someone offers us love, when we have no certifiable need for love---it may cause us to have a "problem", and that "problem" may be a real problem to the person who loves us. It is not obvious when we do and when we do not have a problem. It is quite a problem to recognize when we do (and when we do not) have a problem! When we do have a problem, it is a problem to perceive clearly what kind of problem we have. Is the problem internal to us? Is it in our relationships with others? Is it in our relationship with our environment? Is it in our conception of others, ourselves, and/or our environment? Is it in our conception of our role---what we and others expect of us? Is it in our choice of goals? In our access to scarce resources? In how we are using scarce resources? In our command of techniques? How we respond to a problem depends upon what we perceive to be the nature of the problem. If we are trained to solve only one kind of problem, we are likely to perceive many problems to be of that nature--- regardless of circumstances. Our training may bias us to see all problems to be of the one kind that we can solve. Our bias then is a problem which cannot be solved by the application of our bias. Our problem is then to seek ways of transcending our bias by entering into dialogue with people who do not share our bias. That will be a problem because we may not share enough in common to understand each other. The problem then is whether or not we will value dialogue enough to succeed in entering into meaningful dialogue. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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