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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %PROJECT EXPORT RESPONSIBILITY DISSONANCE CONFLICT+980329 %GUILT SHAME CHILD ADOLESCENT SEX PARENT BABY EVIL+980329 %MORALITY PURITY CODE LEGALISM JUDGEMENT CONDEMNED+980329 %EXCLUSIVE SELF OTHER RIGHTEOUSNESS RELATIONSHIPS 980329 Some people engender within themselves dissonance/ conflict by how they respond to circumstances around themselves --- and then they try to export/project their own dissonance/conflict to people around them. Such people are not dedicated to conflict-resolution within themselves regarding their own inner lives --- and so export/project their own dissonance/conflict outward and engender many additional relationships of dissonance, conflict and violence. Some emotionally immature people cannot comfortably enter into kinds of personal relationships which entail high levels of openness, honesty and intimacy. Observing others' or suspecting others' involvement in such relationships --- engenders within such emotionally immature people discomfort, embarrassment, dissonance, and/or conflict --- which they then export/project in efforts to reduce their internal supply thereof. They try to hold others responsible for violating standards of good behavior; i.e., good in the sense that good behavior would not lead them to experience internal discomfort, embarrassment, dissonance or conflict. From their point of view, such standards are ones which stand independently of them; that are in their view "absolute," and of ultimate importance. When many respected, influential and powerful people are emotionally immature as indicated above --- it is difficult for their community to distinguish between immature standards and other more mature standards --- which acknowledge in firm ways that murder, rape, armed robbery, embezzlement, domestic violence, sexual abuse, sexual harassment, lying, cheating, dishonesty and addictions --- do violence to personal and communal integrity. We will do well and be well when we recognize, name, and talk openly and honestly about the consequences of emotional immaturity which leads to such behaviors --- and seek to raise babies, infants, and children in ways which will minimize occasions of such emotional immaturity, and the tragic costs thereof. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================