This-essay is a9706081.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %FIND COMMON GROUND INCREASE REDUCE OUR OWN SELF 970608 To help our communities find common ground in the midst of misunderstandings and conflicts, we need to focus upon what we can contribute individually by: I. Increasing our own contributions to: A. Reconciliation B. Mutual Understanding C. Peacemaking D. True Conflict Resolution E. Listening Skills II. Decreasing our own contributions to: A. Alienation B. Estrangement C. Misunderstanding D. Conflict generation E. Conflict extension F. Deafness G. Blindness When we seek to do the above we are likely to be unjustly and unfairly: Rejected Alienated Estranged Reviled Persecuted Criticized Judged Condemned Accused Charged Discharged Belittled We need to recognize when people engender alienation out of fearful self-righteousness by being manipulative people who seek to be in control in the manner of addicts. Such people fear open and honest descriptions of the roles in their lives of: Fears Alienation Emotions Anger Resentment Condemnations Excommunication Rejections Dishonesty Deceptions Collusions Secrecy Because such people fear descriptions of the above aspects in human lives, they fear it when others: Discern Recognize Escape-from See-clearly Let-go-of Transcend Become-free-of Hear-clearly or in any way are liberated from the fear of such honest descriptions. Such people use fear, alienation, excommunications, collusions and addictive maneuvers to inhibit open and honest descriptions which will expose their dishonesty and vulnerability; especially as regards: Friendships Intimacy Togetherness Honesty Desires Sexuality Needs Integrity In order to find common ground, we usually need more of what is pointed to below on the left, and less of what is pointed to below on the right: More Less Rainbows Dichotomies Balance Extremism Clarity Confusion Understanding Mis-understanding Sympathy Demands Cooperation Competition Humility Self-righteousness Mutuality Superiority Gentleness Assertiveness Forgiveness Judgementalism Servants Managers Liberation Imprisonment I-messages You-messages I-will-do You-must-do (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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