This-essay is a9703231.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %HEALTHY GUILT SHAME DISINTEGRATIVE PERSON COMMUNAL+970323 %SEXUAL INTIMATE COERCION MANIPULATE VIOLATE IMPOSE+970323 %DISHONEST CONTROL DESIRE CHOICE ACTIONS BEHAVE GOD+970323 %OUTSIDE INSIDE TRAGIC CONSTRAIN FAIL GOOD EVIL SIN 970323 Healthy guilt and shame flow from regrets about choices and actions which have undermined personal and communal integrity. Healthy guilt and shame do not flow from coercion, manipulations, violence, dishonesty or imposed commands. Healthy guilt and shame flow from making coercive choices, manipulative choices, choices to violate and be violent, choices to be dishonest, choices to impose constraints upon people which they do not welcome because of coercion, manipulations, violence and dishonesty---and then regretting the recognized disintegrative choices and actions which flowed from them. Healthy guilt and shame flow freely from inside. Healthy guilt and shame are not imposed from outside. Un-healthy guilt and shame are imposed from outside of self through disintegrative attempts by others to control people---through the use of coercion, manipulations, violence and dishonesty. Healthy guilt and shame may flow from inside self because of disintegrative attempts by self to try impose un-healthy guilt and shame from outside upon others. Un-healthy guilt and shame may be engendered from outside of self by disintegrative attempts by other people who are preoccupied with issues of control and attempt to use guilt and shame to gain personal advantages---at the expense of the people who are made to feel the pain of imposed guilt and shame. Imposed guilt and shame are disintegrative; not healthy. To the extent that we are in truly in Love we are free of un-healthy guilt and shame; free of threats of the imposition of un-healthy guilt and shame, and free of temptations to threaten or try to impose un-healthy guilt and shame upon others. God is Love and does not threaten or try to impose guilt or shame upon anybody. If we are truly in Love, with God, we do not threaten or try to impose guilt or shame upon anybody. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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