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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9512091.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %BEGIN DEVELOP HEALTHY FRIEND INTIMACY SEX RELATE+951209 %OPEN HONEST INTEGRATIVE PARADIGM TRANSCEND ESCAPE 951209 All close and healthy friendships, intimacy, trust, honesty and sexuality develop within the contexts of present and/or past communal settings. The course of such developments depend profoundly upon the communal settings of the participants, and upon the creative abilities of the participants to build upon and transcend their communal settings. Some communal settings are stable, healthy and integrative; others are not. Some people who are seeking to develop close and healthy friendships, intimacy, trust, honesty and sexuality have and share creative abilities to build upon and transcend their communal settings; others do not. In each instance it is helpful for participants to learn to recognize, name, describe and talk about their respective communal settings (past and present) and their respective creative abilities to share, build upon and transcend their communal settings. Some communal settings inhibit open and honest dialogue because there is severe emphasis upon: prescriptions, proscriptions, inhibitions, systematics, laws, rules, regulations, commandments, discipline, obedience, judgementalism, condemnations, excommunications, etc. They may be sincere efforts to avoid disintegrative consequences of imprudent behavior. On the other hand, they may be the bitter fruits of collusive games of mutual self-deception, addictions and codependent support thereof. It is usually not easy to tell the difference between truly sincere efforts and deceptively misleading efforts. The development of close and healthy friendships, intimacy, trust, honesty and sexuality often entails the transcendence of the perversions of deceptively misleading efforts to avoid disintegrative consequences of imprudent behaviors. We need to work on ways to make clear what are the differences between truly sincere efforts and deceptively misleading efforts. People who are sincerely working upon developing close and healthy friendships, intimacy, trust, honesty and sexuality --- need to be protected by their communities against the deceptively misleading efforts of many people to manage and control lives in tragic ways. Tragedies are not the result of deliberate efforts to create them. Tragedies are the result of deceptively misleading efforts to prevent and avoid them. It is not enough to want to prevent and avoid tragedies --- and to have many tools and much power to make use of in efforts to prevent and avoid tragedies. It is essential that there be some profound understanding of the nature of tragedies and of the development of close and healthy friendships, intimacy, trust, honesty and sexuality which promote both personal and communal integrity. In the absence of such profound understanding there are bound to be many occasions of misleading efforts by many people to manage and control lives in tragic ways. People who are trapped within relationships, organizations, institutions, professions, businesses, churches, religions and communities which are dominated by misleading efforts---are bound to find it difficult to extricate themselves from their trap unless: 1. They come to understand that they are trapped. 2. The have some understanding of how they got trapped. 3. The gains some insight into the nature of the trap. 4. They want to escape their trap and seek help. 5. They start to understand what it takes to get out. 6. They make persistent efforts to escape their trap. It is important to recognize that highly respected relationships, organizations, institutions, professions, businesses, churches, religions and communities play major roles in keeping people trapped in misleading efforts to manage and control lives in tragic ways which lead to personal and communal disintegration. Without such recognition escape from such traps are unlikely to occur. We may readily recognize traps because within them there are preoccupations with much to which the following words on the left point---distracting attention away from what words on the right point to. APPEARANCES CONTROL | HONESTY DIALOGUE CONFORMITY PROPRIETY | OPENNESS RESPONSIVENESS DISCIPLINE OBEDIENCE | INTEGRITY HEALTH AGREEMENT CONSENSUS | INTIMACY FRIENDSHIP ORGANIZATION PLANNING | SPONTANEITY CREATIVITY SYSTEMATICS TECHNOLOGY | FORGIVENESS RECONCILIATION LOYALTY DEDICATION | LIBERATION REVELATIONS COMMITMENTS CONTRACTS | GENTLENESS KINDNESS APPEARANCES STANDARDS | LEARNING GROWING (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================