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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9511221.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SELECTIVE MEMORY RISKS FORGET LEARN MISTAKES FAIL 951122 Our memories tend to be selective. We do not remember everything. We cannot remember everything. We must forget some things. It makes a great deal of different in what way we are selective in what we remember and what we forget. We do not usually decide what to remember and what to forget---but our assumptions, beliefs, convictions, attitudes, ideals, values and principles all play important roles in setting the stage for what we remember and what we forget. With some exceptions we tend to remember what we regard as important, and we tend to forget what we regard as unimportant. Importance is not the only factor in remembrance and forgetfulness. Levels of pain, anger, resentment, frustration, fear and other emotions play important roles in our remembrance and forgetfulness. If we are in the habit of nursing resentments, and if our community is in the habit of nursing resentments---we are likely to remember ancient injustices against us and our ancestors; and nurse them as justification for future acts of violence which will keep alive our conflicts, pain, anger, resentments, frustrations and fears. We would no doubt become more healthy people and communities were we to resolve our conflicts, forgive the past, and live for a more integrative future. On the other hand, we all too often forget much which we need to remember in order to avoid making mistakes over and over. We do not like to remember our mistakes and to learn from our mistakes. Thus we are prone to forget our mistakes and so do not learn from our mistakes---only to repeat them over at great cost to ourselves, our families, and our children. We need to work to set the stage for remembering what needs to be remembered, and for forgetting what needs to be forgotten. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================