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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SIGNS TRUE LOVE RELATIONSHIP 950115 Given how valued are the virtues of a true love relationship --- it is not surprising that many attempts are made to make human relationships appear to be true love relationships. How then are we to recognize the real thing, and distinguish it from merely the appearance of the real thing? There is no simple and sure procedure or formula, but the following is suggestive. Many combinations of a word from the first group below, paired with a word from the second group below, will serve as signs, or or point to aspects of, true love relationships: First Group of Words Open Honest Balanced Mutual Serene Relaxed Mutual Prudent Integrative Healthy Second Group of Words Kindness Gentleness Pleasure Satisfaction Understanding Openness Honesty Recognition Initiatives Acceptance Justice Respect Power Mercy Humility Forgiveness Generosity Sacrifice Not all combinations of words are equally appropriate. Some like words appear in both groups, for one thing. It does not make sense to pair two like words. Yet many pairs of words, one from group one and one from group two, will serve as signs of or point to aspects of true love relationships. It is more helpful to point to aspects of a relationships rather than to qualities of one or the other participant in a relationship. "True love" is more recognizable as pointing to the nature of a relationship, than to the nature of a participant in a relationship. In addition to the above words which denote or point to positive aspects of true love relationships---the following words may be used to suggest the nature of a true love relationships. In a true love relationship there is an absence of each of the following and also an absence of fears of each of the following: Condemnation Rejection Excommunication Alienation Secrecy Manipulations Coercion Violence Pretense Arrogance Tension Collusions Exclusivity The above suggestions cannot be taken and be turned responsibly into a mechanical/computer-like procedure to pass judgments as to which relationships are "good" and which relationships are "evil"; and much less so if the focus is upon individual people rather than relationships. This is especially the case if "good" is regarded as meaning "acceptable" and "rewardable" while "evil" is regarded as meaning "condemnable" and "punishable". (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================