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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SHAME GUILT TOOLS ADDICT CONTROL MANIPULATE EVIL 930225 Shame and guilt often are promoted as tools by which addicts seek to manipulate and control people. When shame and guilt are so used and abused, those who seek to manipulate and control people with shame and guilt are often more responsible for evil consequences than are those people whom they seek to manipulate and control. Manipulative people often promote the development of feelings of shame and guilt so that shame and guilt can be used in manipulative attempts to control people. Such use is always alienative; and so is evil. Manipulative people focus attention upon symbols of shame and guilt such as a The Scarlet Letter, derogatory terms of ridicule, pejorative terms and rejective judgments. Such alienative symbols become abused means for manipulation and attempts at control. Often the manipulative people who use and abuse shame and guilt do so in the name of religious doctrines, moral principles, ethical codes, and legalistic systems. They pretend that such use and abuse will lead to personal and communal integrity; when in fact the opposite is the most likely consequence of the use and abuse of shame and guilt. Such dishonest pretense and arrogance is characteristic of the collusive games of mutual self deception which addicts and their codependent supporters play. Shame and guilt cannot be used by people of integrity to manipulate people who lack integrity into being people of integrity. Personal and communal integrity are not achieved through manipulation and attempts to be in control. People who use shame and guilt in manipulative ways in attempts to control other people into desired patterns of conformity cannot themselves be manipulated, shamed, or guilted into being people of integrity working to promote communities of integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================