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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9301281.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONFLICT VIOLENT TENSE PARADIGM COOPERATE COMPETE 930128 There are paradigms which encourage those people who embody the paradigm to be in conflict with each other about their differences---while all believing in many common elements of their joint paradigms. Such paradigms engender a great deal of conflict and violence within the people who embody the paradigms. The personal incarnations of the paradigm are typically tense, defensive, competitive and unwilling to cooperate with people who are significantly different from them. Their paradigm does not provide them context within which to resolve conflicts over differences, or to cooperate with people who are complementary kinds of people. It is important that we learn to recognize the elements of paradigms which encourage those people who embody the paradigm to be in conflict with each other about their differences. Those elements include: 1. Preoccupation with issues of control: who is to be in control, to whose advantage, in what manner, for what purpose, by what means, etc? 2. Greater emphasis upon rules, regulations, laws, taboos, judgments, guilt, shame, etc.; than upon mutual understanding, dialogue, listening, forgiveness, cooperation, sympathy, etc. 3. Preoccupations with perfection, imperfection, failures, mistakes, egos, appearances, success, etc. 4. Focusing upon achievements, work, measurements, manipulations, goals, winning, losing; rather than upon balanced personal and communal integrity. 5. Emphasis upon definitions of what is proper, right, respectable, required, expected; rather than upon personal experiences, learning, sharing, and getting to honestly know each other through conversations, dialogue, listening, giving, receiving, offering, accepting, affection, etc. 6. More concern with traditions and conformity, than with creativity and growth. 7. Preoccupations with objects and people as entities that are expected to fit into well defined roles; rather than focusing upon evolving authentic personal relationships which both create and are created by persons of integrity. For there to be peace in the world and in our hearts we need to recognize which kinds of paradigms need to be operative in our daily lives in order to lay the foundations for peace in our hearts and attitudes toward each other. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================