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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %PERSONALIZE CONFLICT RESOLUTION WIN BATTLE 920805 It is not simple to see when personalizing a conflict is disintegrative, and when it is integrative; but it is important to recognize the difference between at least two different kinds of personalization of conflicts. We may view conflicts as essentially conflicts between the persons who are trapped in the conflicts. Such a view involves a disintegrative personalization of the conflicts; and promotes the continuation of the violence of conflicts as people take sides on opposing teams under rules where only one team can win the conflict. We may view conflicts as essentially rooted in conflicting values and ideals which the participants embody. The participants may be trapped in disintegrative roots conflicts between disintegrative values and ideals. The participants may be unwitting servants of disintegrative values and ideals which are the real of the conflicts. The participants are tragic victims of the root conflicts. Such a view does not personalize the conflict in a disintegrative way; it helps participants transcend the roles which they play as incarnations of the conflicting root values and ideals. When we have transcended the view that the persons who are participants in a conflict are the essence of the conflicts, and see the participants as tragic victims of the disintegrative ideals which they embody; then we can in an integrative way re-personalize the conflict by learning how to relate to the victims of the disintegrative ideals and values as real persons in need of sympathy and understanding. We can learn to help the victims as persons to transcend the disintegrative conflicts between disintegrative values and ideals. We can learn to treat them personally in integrative ways; not as enemies or evil persons who must be defeated and/or destroyed. Such personalization within the context of conflicts can be highly integrative and worthy of great respect and support. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================