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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SIGNIFICANCE MEANING DIFFERENCE POWER CONTROL 910819 Humans feel a desperate need to be significance, be meaningful, make a difference. It is ultimately unacceptable to feel totally insignificant, meaningless, helpless. Many people seek to be in control in the manner of addicts and codependents. To be in full control is to make a significant difference. The president, CEO, boss, etc. are significant because they are in control; or seem to be. We find it impossible to deal honestly with situations in which we are totally helpless, impotent, unable to make a difference; for such situations threaten our sense of being able to be significant and meaningful by making a difference. If we are totally helpless and impotent how can we be significant? When we are in reality totally helpless and impotent we enter into collusive games of mutual self deception (often with the help of religious leaders) and deny that we are totally helpless and impotent; and pay a great price in the process. We invent the notion that we have and do make a difference, but in a negative way. We pretend that the bad things which happen to us are because we have made a negative difference; are guilty of breaking taboos, divine laws, etc. We prefer to believe that we have make a negative difference, are guilty, are at fault; rather than be honest about our impotence and helplessness. Humans find it exceedingly difficult to be honest about their fundamental limitations in time, space, power, knowledge, wisdom, understanding; limitations on being able to make a difference. Humans prefer dishonestly feeling guilty and ashamed over honestly feeling helpless and impotent. In principle there is some hope that guilt can be forgiven and overcome. But what honest hope can there be that human limitations can be transcended? It appears that there is more hope in dishonestly choosing to feel guilty than in honestly feeling impotent. For further thoughts see the book "Adam, Eve and the Serpent" by Elaine Pagels. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================