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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONFLICT CLARIFICATION RESOLUTION HONEST ISSUES 900806 Conflict resolution often depends in important ways upon conflict clarification. If there is confusion regarding what the nature of a conflict is, it is then difficult to resolve the conflict. It is therefore important to recognize the ways in which conflict clarification may be achieved. How conflict clarification may be achieved of course flows from what conflict clarification depends upon. Conflict clarification depends upon: 1. The availability of honest and accurate information to all victims of the conflict, and the withholding of no relevant information. 2. A clear understanding by all victims of the conflict of the natural connections between cause and effects of their victimization. 3. Clarity in the minds of all victims of the conflict regarding the difference between natural consequences and dishonest contrived consequences, 4. An open awareness and understanding of the vested interests of the participants in the conflict, 5. A clear and honest understanding by all participants of all their differing ideals, values, goals, principles, etc. 6. Clarity regarding real versus apparent conflicts, among the various ideals, values, goals, principles, etc. 7. Clarity regarding the motivations for and natures of the patterns of addictive, codependent and collusive behaviors of participants in the conflict. 8. Clarity regarding the inter-relationships between affective and cognitive behaviors, between emotions and rationalizations. 9. Clarity regarding the difference between winning a conflict, and resolving a conflict. 10. Clarity regarding the different levels of importance of various values, ideals, principles, etc. within various contexts. In the presence of confusion, most conflict resolution is impossible. Through the development of open and honest clarity regarding the nature of a conflict, it becomes possible to resolve the conflict. It is for this reason that collusions, addictions and codependent processes work to promote confusion, crises, dishonesty, secrecy, and the related realities of the disintegrative community. Fundamental conflicts exist between: 1. Honesty and dishonesty 2. Clarity and confusion 3. Openness and secrecy 4. Sharing and keeping 5. Knowledge and ignorance 6. Connectedness and alienation 7. Trust and suspicion 8. Resolution and winning 9. Confession and repression 10. Cooperation and control 11. Creativity and conformity 12. Acceptance and rejection 13. Love and estrangement 14. Integration and disintegration Collusions, addictions and codependencies work to tip the balance in favor of the disintegrative pole of each conflict. Love works to tip the balance in favor of integrative poles of each conflict. In each instance there is in a paradoxical way a need for balance between the two poles of the conflict. Conflict resolution does not call for one pole of any conflict being in a position of dominance over the other pole of the conflict. Dichotomies and their associated conflicts result when a contrary assumption is made. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================