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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %STYLES KINDS RELATIONSHIPS ELEMENTS PEOPLE ROLES 900227 There are many different kinds and styles of personal relationships based upon many different kinds and styles of conceptions of what personal relationships are possible, proper, desirable, conceivable, etc. Some people interact with each other as do balls on a billiard table; bumping into each other without any internal sense of identity or purpose: objectively and without any fundamental sense of consciousness. They treat each other as objects without personal considerations. Other people interact with each as combatants who are engaged in zero-sum games where what one wins somebody else must lose. According to the rules of their deadly games they cannot afford to communicate honestly and intimately with any other person, for intimate communication might let essential secrets out which others can use against you. They enter into essentially lonely and alienative relationships with others; like spy versus spy. There do exist communities in which people actively cooperate with each other in open, honest, intimate and meaningful ways. Some people do work as members of coherent teams to fulfill mutual goals. They do not see each other as contestants seeking to win and own a limited number of goods; but as cooperators in creating more goods, where the more which is given, the more everybody has to enjoy. Some people relate to each other as actors on a stage and in a drama; people cast into roles which are not their own creations, but the creations of some unknown others who are not really present. They cast each other into prisons by casting each other into roles from which they are not to escape. They do not let each other play themselves in authentic presence and living. Some people cast themselves into restrictive roles, unwilling to invent themselves; unwilling to conceive themselves, and unwilling to be born anew in creative ways which were not cast in the past. They are unwilling to play themselves, because they have been discouraged when they did try to play themselves in the past; other people were unwilling to relate to them as themselves, being able to relate to them only as some role which was not themselves. Some people play exclusively professional or job-cast roles; doing what the profession or job calls for according to some script written by some unknown and un- present other(s). They are able to relate only to others of their own kind and are made very uncomfortable by people who are playing themselves openly and honestly. Some people play to each other the roles of victim and oppressor, addict and codependent, child and parent, etc. Each role needs the contrasting other role for the acting to continue; and each is insecure in the absence of the other role being played according to some oppressive script. Some participants are imprisoned in comprehensive collusive games of mutual self deception; all playing roles of oppressors and victims in ways in which there are no clear oppressors or victims, because all participants are both oppressors and victims. They are so confused that they cannot reflect upon their own reflexive relationships; and regard the whole process to be an objective reality which can be analyzed in terms of its elementary objective parts. Truly liberally educated people have been liberated from mutually exclusive styles and kinds of relationships. Liberally educated people do not yield to coercion and manipulations in which roles are imposed; and people are not free to play themselves openly, honestly and authentically. Few people are truly liberally educated; because most administrators, professors and teachers are not secure enough to encourage their students to transcend the manipulative processes of their instructors and administrators. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================