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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8912251.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CREATIVE WITHDRAWAL MEDITATION ADDICTION TRANSCEND 891225 The creative person with profound insight may withdraw from the presence of members of an addictive society to meditate and detach from their collusive games of mutual self deception. An addictive person may withdraw from the presence of healthy members of an integrative society to concentrate upon personal games of self deception and illusion which characterize the addictive personal process of isolation. It is not easy to distinguish the two ways of withdrawal; either as the person who withdraws, or as those people from whom one withdraws. Withdrawal to spend time in integrative meditation may be the way to honesty with self, and so eventually with others. In honest meditation we may become in touch with our authentic self, and therein recognize our own addictive tendencies and processes for what they are. In honest meditation away from the coercive expectations of addicts and codependents we may find the way to authentically being our own selves. In the confidence which comes with being authentic, we may return with power to be ourselves in authentic intimacy within new relationships which are personal, open, honest, vulnerable, and secure. Withdrawal from true personal relationships into manipulative objective relationships is likely to be the way to illusions of control over realities which can not be controlled. In manipulative objective relationships (even if they involve persons) we lose touch with our authentic self and authentic others, and regard our addictive tendencies and objective processes as the keys to truths about ultimate reality. The more alienated we are from others as authentic persons, the more we desperately seek that which we miss---seeking the unknown which we yearn for, through manipulative rituals and objective procedures which bring us temporary illusions of well-being followed by nights of pain, depression, fear, and desperation. We become less and less confident that we are anybody, and further withdraw from the intimate personal relationships which we crave; but which we fear because we cannot control them, or be sure that they will turn out as we wish and plan. Recovery involves the discovery of fail-safe secure contexts in which we can be authentically ourselves because it is safe to be vulnerable there. Such contexts are not characterized by manipulative people seeking the illusion of being in control when and where control is foolish and impossible. Recovery can begin when we admit to ourselves that our present way has a dead end. Recovery begins with the seeking out of fail-safe secure personal contexts in the faith that they may exist. Recovery continues in the discovery of and gradual growth of trust within such secure contexts for vulnerability. Therein defensive procedures may be relaxed. Therein attempts to be in control become irrelevant. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================