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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ESCAPE COLLUSION ADDICT DEPEND TABOO GUILT SIN 890226 To enjoy personal and communal integrity members of a community need to escape the dis-ease of collusions, addictions, codependence, taboos, guilt, shame and sin. These realities are intimately inter-related. To escape their dis-ease people must know and understand the dynamics by which these realities undermine personal and communal integrity. These realities cannot be transcended by the use of violence, coercion, manipulation, and manipulative technologies. They can not be transcended through trickery, deception, secrecy, or misleading communications. Because the realities are fundamentally not objective in character it is not possible to cure the diseases primarily through the use of objective research by scientists and other technically competent specialists with narrow foci of attention and concern. No person can force another person to behave in ways which will transcend the diseases. It is important to learn to transcend taboos and leading collusive games of mutual self deception; and the guilt and shame which are generated by failures to play the games properly. Yet such transcendence does not come by way of those who have "transcended" the games by tricking or coercing others to violate the rules of the games. The essence of transcendence is not to be found in doing violence to the rules of the disintegrative games. Just violating the rules will only intensify the defense of the rules on the part of the people who are not ready to transcend the games and recover personal and communal integrity. Yet, transcendence and recovery will entail profound violations of the rules of the games. To transcend the diseases it is essential to do so with personal integrity exercised freely and with a basic understanding of the possible consequences. The violation of disintegrative rules is integrative behavior if and only if it is guided and motivated by considerations of personal and communal integrity. The integrative violations come through focusing honestly upon ideals, values, principles, and priorities which in essential ways transcend those of the collusive games of mutual self deception. Transcendence does not come by focusing judgmentally upon participants in the diseased behavior as evil people; but by focusing upon the inadequacies of the ideas, ideals, values, principles and priorities which guide and motivate trapped people. The disintegrative conflicts exist primarily among those considerations which lead the trapped people; for the trapped people are the incarnations of those inherent primary conflicts. Coercion of or violence done to the trapped people will in no way resolve the conflicts which exist among the primary considerations which lead and motivate the people who are trapped. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================