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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SUBMISSION TO CONTROLLING LOVE ADDICT FAIL POWER 870417 People who love each other do not control each other or submit to each other's desires to be in control. People who believe it is important to be in control seek to be important by being in control or by being controlled by an important person or important persons. People who believe it is important to be in control seek to enter into contractual relationships in which they can control relationships contractually, each seeking contractual advantages by affirming their own importance in controlling maneuvers. Some people seek to be important by being in control. Others seek to be important by submitting to the controlling behavior of important people who are in control. The latter pay for their sense of importance through being in submission: it is part of their payment for the service of getting a sense of importance from someone who feels important by being in control of a submissive person. When a submissive person fails to fulfill the contract for important services of control by being submissive to such control, the person in control is bound to exercise more vigorous attempts to be in control: that is part of the contractual relationship. Regaining control of the non-submissive person and the non- submissive person returning to the submissive relationship is a reaffirmation of the goodness of control, submissive relationships and the importance which power relationships affirm. When a submissive person no longer wants to play the role of being submissive, the person in control is not always willing to quit playing the games of mutual self deception about being important through being in control or submission. The controller may become fearful, desperate and despotic in attempting to continue the addictive game of mutual self deception; and turn to violence in an attempt to maintain the appearances of importance in the face of low self esteem. The formerly submissive person needs to find ways to free the controller from the need to be in control to fulfill the needs of an addict to bolster self esteem. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================