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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DENYING PLEASURE OF HAVING CONTROL 870417 Some people seek pleasure and self fulfillment in exercising control over others. They enjoy the contests having to do with who will have control, including contests which seek to deprive others of exercising control. If their right to have control is challenged, that challenge meets one of their needs to be in contests over who shall exercise control. They need to be engaged in contests over control, and find their satisfaction by participating in such contests. Such people believe it is important to be in control and that important people are in contests over being in control. The perverse attitudes, ideals, values, and behaviors of manipulative people can not be controlled in keeping with their perverse attitudes, ideals, values and behaviors. To become like them to overcome them is futile, for their victory is in forcing others to become like them. To transcend the ways of people who believe it is important to be in control---one must transcend the belief system of such people, transcend their conceptions of themselves and human relationships. It is important to learn how to perceive human relationships in integrative rather than in power-politics terms. There is a need for new conceptions in terms of which to recognize what is needed to sustain personal and communal integrity. Playing power control games will not promote or sustain personal and communal integrity. Communities which affirm the importance of being in control do not ultimately survive with integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================