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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8704191.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DEPENDENCY AS CONTROL TECHNIQUE 870419 Some human relationships are manipulative in subtle ways. Some people like to be overtly in control and need others to control. Other people like to be covertly in control, and need some people to apparently control them while they as apparent victims are in covert and subtle control of the controller. Such relationships of mutual complementary forms of control satisfy at one level, and yet leave participants frustrated and prone to violence at other levels. Their interdependency is not a healthy interdependency, but one of mutual manipulation and control with the inevitable forms of resentment and rebellion which go with personal manipulation of any form. Yet some people do not know of, nor can imagine any more satisfying form of human relationship than one of mutual control in interdependent ways. If it is important to be in control and important people are in control, it follows that being in a relationship of control-interdependency with an important person who is in great control is a sign of one's own importance. If some people are more desirable than others and a very desirable person chooses to participate with you in a relationship of interdependent control, then such willingness on the desirable person's part is a sign/affirmation of one's own importance as a person who is in control, and of that person's willingness to be bound up in a control relationship. When any person who is bound up in a relationship of interdependent control seeks to escape from the relationship, the other person who is dependent upon the control relationship will be threatened and seek to regain control of the relationship. The relationship is defined by a contract of mutual dependency upon being in control and being controlled. The commitment is eternal. It is a violation of the contract to seek to escape the control of the other. The "holy" agreement was to accept each other's control for ever as in "holy" matrimony. The agreement initiated a collusive game of mutual self deception and it is an eternal game to the death. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================