This-essay is a8602231.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %ADDICT CODEPEND COLLUSION-1+860223 %RIGHT TO REJECT RESPONSIBILITY-1 860223 Some people act as through they had the right to reject responsibility for dealing realistically with their practical problems of life. Their central problem as they see it is to manipulate other people to get them to solve self's problems in life. Self's fulfillments are rooted in other people's behaviors; in the view of such other- directed people. To them it seems logical that self's problems are rooted in other people's failures to fulfill their responsibilities. The central problem, then, appears to them to be how to get other people to better fulfill their responsibilities to solve self's problems. Within such a perceptual framework it seems reasonable to test other people's love by presenting them with challenges to their ability to fulfill their responsibilities. Failing to deal practically with self's problems oneself, presents such challenges to those people near and dear. Abuse of drugs, alcohol, money, work opportunities, etc. play a role in such failures to deal practically with the challenges of life. The more successful those who are near and dear are, the greater are the tests to which they must be put to be sure of their love. Self can not believe that self is worthy of love, yet self wants to be assured, and needs to be assured, that self is loved. In the absence of healthy self esteem, self cries out for assurance, by pleas for those near and dear to fulfill their responsibilities to solve self's problems, and so to protect self from the death of a dysfunctional conception of the way to self-fulfillment. When self begins to perceive self's world-view to be dysfunctional, dead, it is natural to try to deny the reality of death; and to reach out for help in denying the reality of death. Self will turn to those near and dear in such reality denial; they have a responsibility to make the dead world-view appear to be alive. Denying the death of the dysfunctional world-view makes it impossible to deal practically with self's problems and offers those near and dear increased opportunities to show their love. Their showing their love through limitless sacrifices will bring back to life the world-view which only seems to be dead. It is other people's responsibility to make life worth living. People who do not fulfill their responsibility should be punished. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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