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This-essay is a8512171.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %RESPONSIBLE MANAGEMENT OF DESIRES 851217 Some desires are essentially self-referential. Other desires involve in an essential way the sharing of desires with another person; there is a desire than another have a desire to share the desire.? In the latter case there may be a desire to manage the mutuality of desires, but such a desire is usually frustrated in that management does not bring the fulfillment envisioned in fantasy. Society may forbid coercive efforts at management of others' desires, or efforts to coerce others in the fulfillment of less reciprocal desires. Jack may wish that Jill cooperate with him in fulfilling his desires, but Jill may not wish to so cooperate. Jack in his fantasy may envision satisfaction in coercing Jill to cooperate, and may coerce Jill. Yet, society does not always approve of such coercion, even though sub-cultures may approve of such use of people and promote their own disintegration. Society may require people to have certain desires only in reciprocal relationships; forbidding that they ever be essentially self-referential. In that case society may seek to coerce its members to fulfill the collective desire that certain taboos be observed through restraint which is coercive rather than self-referential. Such coercion may not fulfill the collective fantasy out of which it was born any more than Jack's coercion of Jill will. In any case the desire that others desire in a certain way is unlikely to be fulfilled through efforts to manage their desires through coercion. Desires which need to be essentially mutual for fulfillment are unlikely to be fulfilled through coercion. They are more likely to be fulfilled through actions informed by fantasies of eliciting authentic desires which are open and honest because they are free of coercion and the fear of being vulnerable. Desires may be elicited, but not managed. Management leads to rebellion and clever counter-maneuvers, not to successful control of desires. Dictators do not manage the desires of those whom the subjugate. They just barely manage the overt behavior. Their fulfillment should be a lesson to all. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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