This-essay is a7910112.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %PRIVACY VIOLATING QUESTIONS 791011 To ask people some questions is to violate their privacy. Intrusive questions put people into a double blind out of which they can not gracefully escape. To answer intrusive questions is to surrender privacy. To evade intrusive questions is to behave in a way which will communicate to the questioner that the evasion is motivated by a sense of guilt. Even more so, a frontal refusal to answer intrusive questions is likely to be taken as an admission of guilt. Rarely do people who ask intrusive questions know how to respect the personal privacy of others. The situation is more difficult to judge when the intrusive questions occur in the context of good natured teasing of a friendly sort. It is not likely to be helpful to try to prevent such teasing, for to do so is to inhibit a precious form of intimacy. Yet, even in such teasing there are limits to which love will not go. It is not loving to violate privacy even in good-natured teasing. It is difficult for the teased to respond charitably to teasing which oversteps the bounds of love and violates privacy. The situation is relatively easy to judge when the intruder has obvious selfish motives for violating the privacy of another: revenge, political advantage, profit, financial management, acquisition of power, moral superiority, etc. When there are selfish motives the invasion of privacy is often used to take advantage of people's immaturity to turn them against a person who has in private done what is emotionally threatening to immature people. By violating the people's privacy the violated people may be made to carry the guilt of the immature who feel guilty for having imagined the violated people to have done what the immature do not feel free to do, even though they would like to enjoy themselves in so doing. The society which encourages such violations of privacy is likely to be a violent society---because it rewards immaturity and inhibits intimacy. Lovers are not safe in privacy in such a society, because the society does not respect the right of lovers to enjoy privacy. Such a society is more concerned with promoting conformal behavior than with promoting dialogue, listening, and communication. It will inhibit love to promote conformity in the name of the God of Love. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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