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This-essay is a7902031.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %IDENTIFYING TRUSTWORTHY PEOPLE 790203 Who can you trust? It is risky to trust the wrong people. Thus, it is important to be able to identify whom you can trust. We must have trustworthy signs upon which we can depend to help us identify those people whom we can trust. If we trust the wrong people we will most likely be betrayed. We may learn much by taking note of what signs we regard as trustworthy and as the basis for identifying which people are trustworthy. Different people trust different signs, and trust different people as being trustworthy. The signs we trust include people's: intentions (explicit, implicit, evident); sophistication (artistic, literary, technical, scientific, philosophical, religious, etc.); doctrines (religious, political, business, scientific, academic), rituals (family, neighborhood, ethnic, school, professional, academic, religious, scientific, business, etc.) We tend to look for congruence between what we regard as of ultimate importance---and what others regard as of ultimate importance. We are inclined to trust those who show congruence with us about what is important. We look for signs of such congruence, and tend to trust those people whose signs show congruence. Unfortunately people with congruent ultimate concerns do not necessarily merit each other's ultimate trust. Two people who share in common the philosophy that it is "everyone for himself" may trust each other to behave in calculative devious ways, but that is hardly the kind of trust upon which to base an intimate friendship. Two people who believe that God is a jealous, legalistic, punitive God who has a quota of how many will be permitted to be "saved"---can hardly trust each other to give up their seat in the Kingdom of Heaven to make room for the other---especially if their ultimate concern in common is a compulsive need or mandate to "be saved" as an individual who is "good" or "better". Likeness is not the sure basis for trust. To identify those who are worthy of trust we need to look for signs that indicate that their ultimate concern is to be worthy of our trust, to respond to us in ways which affirm us even at great cost to themselves---but not at the expense of affirming the development of perverse relationships between us and them. There are no technically reliable signs which identify such real people in a trustworthy way. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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