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This-essay is a7704271.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %SUSPICION 770427 In the absence of trust, suspicion rules. When suspicion rules it generates contexts which promote its continued rule. Suspicious people create conditions which they perceive as justifying their suspicions, yet they do not see that their suspicions are self--fulfilling prophesies--even as they prevent the fulfillment of the false prophets who make the prophesies. Suspicion is a poison that grows upon the emotional insecurity of people who do not know others intimately. It is a defense mechanism for the immature and builds walls between people --- thus inhibiting maturation processes. Suspicion is not based upon knowledge, but upon ignorance. Suspicious people take advantage of their ignorance to nurse doubts about other people --- doubts which keep them from getting to know other people intimately. Suspicion thus maintains the ignorance upon which depends. Suspicion is not just suspended judgement, it is negative in character and promotes negative behavior. Suspicion is a way or life for many people. Such people probably have never intimately known anybody whom they could trust without qualification. Suspicion is calmed by people who are willing to accept the risks and hurts involved in being trustworthy. Being trustworthy is different than being reliable. A very untrustworthy person can be reliably untrustworthy, consistently failing to keep confidences and consistently being unloving. Reliability has to do with fulfilling expectations --- of whatever nature. A trustworthy person merits trust. Trust has to do with seeking other's wholistic welfare as an accepted person apart from preconditions. In self-defense we protect ourselves against persons we suspect do not have our wholistic welfare as an ultimate concern. Genuinely trustworthy persons communicate with us in ways which transcend such suspicions, and so elicit our trust. They help us suspect our suspicions and give us solid ground upon which to nurture the growth of trust. With them we begin to suspect that there are better ways of coping than to constantly be suspicious. This new kind of suspicion opens doors to more intimate communications and all that such communications make possible. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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