This-essay is a7703101.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %CONFIDENCE VS FEAR 770310 Fear can be promoted most easily in people who lack confidence in themselves. The self-confident person, through integrity, can resist manipulative efforts of those who would control them through fear of rejection, punishment, ridicule, violence, etc. The person who lacks personal integrity in a parallel way lacks self- confidence. They are not self-defined in any meaningful sense. Who they are tends to be entirely dependent upon other people's definitions of what they should be and do, and therefore upon what they are expected to be and do. Such expectations tend to be coercive and to undermine integrity, rather than promote it. Meaningful living involves self-defining dialogue with others, not coercive definitions of what should be the nature of all selves. The person who is trapped in a collusion is not a free self with integrity. Self is defined by the collusion without respect for what is unique to the individual. Participants in the collusion promote mutual fear of each other --- in order to sustain the security provided by the collusion without respect for what is unique to the individual. Participants in the collusion promote mutual fear of each other in order to sustain the security provided by the collusion. Because the collusion has made them emotionally insecure, they need the technical security provided by the collusion---and therefore fear to transcend the collusion. It is ultimately frightening to consider breaking the egg shell of their collusion and stepping out of such a cracked egg into the unknown and forbidden world beyond. Such fear can be transcended only by the generation of a conviction that instinctive understandings and needs ---pass meaningful judgments upon the pseudo-wisdom of the collusion. The services performed by the collusion must be examined and judgment made as to whether they are worth the price being paid for them. Is it worth surrendering meaning in return for security? Is it worth surrendering genuine pleasure in return for certainty? Is it worth surrendering emotional security in return for the presumption of technological security? The victims of a collusion must ask if the collusion is delivering on its explicit and implicit promises. The recognition of the breach of contract can help generate the confidence and integrity necessary to crack the egg shell which defines the boundaries of the collusion. Such confidence with love casts out fear of the unknown which is beyond the shell of the collusion. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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