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   %SITUATION ETHICS MORALITY ENVIRONMENT ADAPTABLE+040204
 %RESPONDERS PEACEMAKERS CONFLICT RESOLUTION LOVERS+040204
 %REALMS FAMILIES GANGS TRIBES NEIGHBORHOODS CHURCH+040204
 %RELIGIONS FAITHFUL COMMUNITIES DOMINATION CONTROL+040204
 %LIFE STYLES VALUES IDEALS PRINCIPLES LAWS COMMAND+040204
 %PRIVACY RIGHTS INTIMACY FRIENDSHIPS RELATIONSHIPS 040204
                                                          
     As for other kinds of people, so also for domineering
people.    Domineering people  live within various realms:
families,   gangs,   tribes,   neighborhoods;   political,
academic,  business, professional, religious,  scientific,
scholarly, etc.   Domineering people's life styles vary in
response  to  the  kind  of  realms  within  which   their
domineering tendencies find expression.   How they respond
to  challenges  to  their life styles will  also  vary  in
response to the kinds of realms within which they  try  to
be loyal to their dominant:  ideals, values and principles
of how to be successfully in control.                     
                                                          
     The  most  helpful ways of responding to  domineering
people's  life styles --- will of necessity vary according
to the kinds  of  realms  within  which  their domineering
tendencies  find  expression;  and according to  the  life
styles of peacemakers, diplomats, and True Livers who also
live within the realms of the present  domineering people.
No one pattern of response to domineering people is likely
to be helpful within  all  realms and/or situations.    No
"one size"  will fit all  situations.  People  who seek to
respond helpfully to domineering people's life styles need
to understand their domineering tendencies  and  how their
expressions depend upon  the environments within which the
domineering  people  live.  However,   copying domineering
people's  life styles  will virtually never be helpful  to
anybody.                                                  
                                                          
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     It  is difficult to understand domineering  people's 
behavior patterns because:                                
                                                          
     1.  They  are  not dedicated to behaving in  coherent
ways,  so they often have no coherent behavior pattern for
us to discover.                                           
                                                          
     2.  They  feel free to use secrecy and dishonesty  at
will; so they can at will confuse anybody who is trying to
understand them.                                          
                                                          
     3.  They  feel free to  undermine/confuse any pattern
of  communication;   so communications with them  are  not
reliable.                                                 
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     It  will  be  helpful to ask questions such as  those
following:                                                
                                                          
     1.  What are the motivations which are present?      
     2.  What misleading assumptions are accepted?        
     3.  What questions are not asked?                    
     4.  What complementary realities are ignored?        
     5.  What complementary people are denigrated?        
     6.  What alienative technologies are favored?        
     7.  What integrative possibilities are denigrated?   
     8.  What kinds of confusion/ignorance are favored?   
     9.  What kinds of language/communication are absent? 
    10.  What are the major preoccupations of people?     
    11.  What alienative consequences do they engender?   
    12.  What alienation flows from responses to them?    
                                                          
     The  above  is only a suggestive  list  of  questions
which  it  may be helpful to ask.   There  are  many  more
questions  which  may be more helpful to  ask  than  those
suggested   above;   especially  in  unusual   situations,
environments and circumstances.  Domineering people try to
be   faithful  to  their  peculiar  ideals,   values   and
principles   in   ways   which  depend   perversely   upon
situations,   environments  and  circumstances.     To  be
helpful in responding to  domineering  people's efforts to
be faithful, we must be at least as adaptable as they are!
                                                          
     We must remember that alienation flows from  copying 
the  behavior patterns of domineering people;  as well as 
from  their domineering patterns of behavior.    Becoming 
arrogant  and  self righteous in response  to  domineering
people's  behavior  patterns  --- generates disintegrative
alienation!  It is alienation which is the real enemy.    
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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