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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %META COLLUSIVE GAME RULES WIN LOSE 980803 Many people play contentious games in which the contestants take for granted that other contestants will always be contentious in reflexive ways which echo back and forth assumptions which keep the content in contentious ruts. When they are in those contentious ruts, contestants: 1. Make affirmations primarily by how they try to tear down each other's affirmations; i.e., in negative ways --- through denials, negations, ridicule, mockery, derision, contradictions, refusals, rejections, travesty, farce, parody, caricature, . . . 2. Expect each other to respond in the above ways --- rather than in ways which are more: affirmative, positive, constructive, cooperative, collaborative, synergistic, favorable, helpful, beneficial, assenting, specific, . . . 3. Accuse each other of having responded to constructive efforts in various of the above ways --- rather than looking for signals that responses have been chosen to help bring to an end the vicious cycles of the above kinds of responses. 4. Deal with each other within the framework of motivations which are DOMINATED BY FEAR; rather than within the framework of motivations which are LIBERATED BY LOVE. "God is Love." 5. Are compulsively preoccupied with who is, or is likely to be, the LOSER --- and who is, or is likely to be the WINNER; and are highly critical of processes which do not satisfy their compulsive preoccupations in clear, unambiguous and non-paradoxical ways. 6. Are compulsively preoccupied with issues of CONTROL, DOMINANCE, MANAGEMENT, POWER, DOMINION, COMMANDS, DISCIPLINE, FORCE, POSSESSION, OWNERSHIP, TECHNIQUE, INJUNCTIONS, PUNISHMENT, REJECTION, EXCOMMUNICATION, COERCION, ORDERS, CORRECTION, DENIAL, CONTRADICTION, etc. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================