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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %PROCESS ALIENATION RECONCILE FORGIVE ACKNOWLEDGE+980104 %REPENTANCE REVERSE TURN AROUND TOGETHER CONFLICT+980104 %RESOLUTION PEACEMAKING SHALOM VIOLENCE WAR TERROR 980104 Both the process of alienation and the process of reconciliation which ends the process of alienation ---are processes which in paradoxical ways are cooperative. The process of alienation and the process of reconciliation are mirror images of each other. The roles played by participants in each process are often mirror images of each other. 1. Judgmental people encourage rebellions --- and rebellious people encourage judgmental actions. 2. Self-righteous people encourage prudent avoidance ---and prudent avoidance encourages self-righteousness. 3. Defensive people become offensive and encourage defensive responses, and offensive people encourage defensive responses. 4. Insecure people take advantage of each other's points of vulnerability --- nd thereby encourage each other to be offensively defensive; and vice versa. Once the process of alienation has been started it is difficult for any participants to reverse the process; because the processes are self-validating in progressing to increasingly higher levels of alienation. The logic of alienation is one-directional and confuses the participants so that they cannot perceive how dysfunctional the logic is. The reversal of the process of alienation requires cooperation at a higher level --- than does the process of alienation. The participants in the reversal of the process of alienation can succeed only to the extent that they can acknowledge their own and each other's roles in the process of alienation --- without further alienating themselves from themselves and each other in the process. Often people who are involved in an alienative process are co-conspirators in collusive games of mutual self deception --- but in contradictory ways. They may agree upon what truths, questions, and issues should be avoided, confused and mis-represented; but not upon how to avoid, confuse and mis-represent them. On the latter points they may be in conflict --- while still working together as players in their collusive games of mutual self deception. When people who have been on opposing sides of collusive games of mutual self deception come to seek to make peace --- they have major challenges which face them: 1. How to develop mutual trust and respect. 2. How to sort out confusion they have generated. 3. How to agree to talk about taboo topics. 4. How to sort out ideals, values and principles. 5. How to unravel the fabric of their collusions. 6. How to let go of terribly familiar patterns. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================