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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONFORM MEANS SAVE SALVATION DOCTRINE RITUAL NEWS+940426 %SCRIPTURE LIFE STYLE DRESS WORK SEX AVOID LOVE 940426 Our collusive games of mutual self deception and addictions (and codependent support of them) often lead us to pervert our healthy evangelistic desires. We attempt to control other people---to get them to conform (or dishonestly appear to conform) to to our expectations of them. We see their conformity (or dishonest appearances of conformity) to our expectations as the means to our own salvation. To save ourselves we must save others. Other people become the means to our salvation, and we abuse other people in our efforts to save ourselves. We may begin by being possessed by the good news. Then we become possessive of the good news which has come to us. We regard the good news as our own news to be used by us. We try to manipulate the good news to our own advantage as we manipulate other people to our own advantage. Other people become objects to be manipulated until they conform to our evangelistic expectations of them. We want others be become like us so they will affirm our beliefs, rituals, life styles, expectations, and fears. As collusive addicts, and as codependent supporters of addicts, we fear those who are different from us; and so seek to make everybody be like us. We are often motivated and driven by our fears of other's loveless judgments, condemnations, rejections, excommunications, exclusions, and banishments. Such loveless fears lead us to into loveless judgments, condemnations, rejections, excommunications, exclusions and banishments of others who refuse to conform to our expectations of them. When what we believe are the means to salvation become our tools of manipulation---then personal and communal disintegration are the fruits of our evangelistic manipulations. We do not own and cannot control the means to salvation. Our salvation does not follow from our skillful manipulation of the means to salvation. Our salvation follows from our acceptance of the fact that we cannot manipulate the tools of salvation to save ourselves or others. Our salvation follows from our accepting ourselves and each other as expressions of God's creative Love---and in Love setting each other free to enjoy true security known as the freedom to be safely vulnerable in each other's loving presence. Our personal and communal integrity depend upon our being free to be safely vulnerable in being true to ourselves and to each other. Only when we give ourselves and each other the freedom to safely own and share our own personal: experiences, hopes, aspirations, desires, fears, perceptions, attitudes, assumptions, beliefs, convictions, visions and dreams---only then can we know what heaven truly is; and transcend the hell of our devilish alienative efforts to achieve our own salvation by dishonestly qualifying ourselves for entrance into heaven as we conceive it and try to create it. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================