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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %EMBARRASS OWN SELF OTHER SEX DESIRE BEHAVIOR LOVE+930828 %PARADIGM WORSHIP IDOL SACRIFICE INTEGRITY HONESTY 930828 If we are embarrassed by our own sexual desires, thoughts and behaviors---we are likely to be embarrassed by those of other people, and vice versa. If we cannot control our own sexual desires, thoughts and behaviors---we (in compensation) may seek to control the sexual desires, thoughts and behaviors of others, and vice versa. If we assume, think and believe that it is very important to be in control in general---we are likely to try to behave like military generals and exercise control over sexual desires, thoughts and behaviors; our own and those of others. We are likely to assume, think and believe that control of sexuality is good; and a failure to be in control of sexuality is evil; and so such a failure is embarrassing. Our belief in the goodness of control in general is often related to our embarrassment over our inability to control our own (and other people's) sexual desires, thoughts, and behaviors. We may think that such sexual realities should be dealt with systematically, decently, in order, according to proper plans; in keeping with authoritative rules, regulations, prohibitions, injunctions, commandments, and judgements made by good people with power. Our assumptions, attitudes, feelings, thoughts, beliefs and convictions in these matters may lead us to sacrifice openness, honesty, dialogue, conversations and integrity in the service of trying to be in control. Our best judgements and manipulations are very likely to be alienative rather than reconciling. We probably will not recognize the roots of our tragedies. If we are embarrassed by our sexual desires, thoughts and behaviors we are probably trapped in a disintegrative paradigm. We probably need to examine carefully the most basic assumptions, attitudes, beliefs, convictions, ideals, values and goals which are taken for granted within the context of the paradigm---to see how they lead to both personal and communal disintegration. Then we need to ask if the paradigm is worth such personal and communal disintegration. Is our paradigm so godly that it merits such sacrifices of integrity upon its alters of worship? (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================