blog traffic analysis
This is http://www.essayz.com/a9108181.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %LOVE COURTSHIP JUDGEMENT VULNERABLE SECURITY SEX 910818 In successful courtships couples approach each other and learn to make reliable judgements about each other, to trust and be trustful, to give and accept the gift of security, to be prudently vulnerable, to become new people in the process of conceiving and being conceived by a new relationships, and to give new life to their community. Judgements are made in courts and in court-ships. Evidence is gathered; and some prejudices are transcended. Reliable judgements depend upon dealing honestly with the evidence which is available. Reliable courtships involve patiently gathering evidence which is honestly used to decide whether the relationship is headed towards healthy honesty or towards unhealthy addiction, codependence and collusive games of mutual self deception. A rush towards judgement is not likely to be healthy. It takes time to honestly learn to know each other. Some couples become new persons within the processes of conceiving new relationships and being conceived by new ways of relating honestly to each other. Other couples become imprisoned in the processes of trying to maintain a frozen identity within a mutually manipulative process of unilateral control over each other. A healthy courtship is a patient process in which participants seek to avoid the hazards of imprisonment while being prudently cautious about slipping into imprudent trust, vulnerability and gullibility. Premature trust of someone who has not proven to be honest, reliable, generous, accepting, flexible, and willing to change is dangerous trust. Refusal to trust anyone out of fear and compulsive paranoia leads to manipulative death. Healthy courtship is the process of steering the ship of live through the narrow channel between imprudent premature trust and manipulative refusal to trust. It requires honest informed judgements based upon just considerations of each other in the light of true love, and empowers participants to grow into new beings within honest new relationships. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================