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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9105141.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ENTRAP DYNAMICS DISHONEST COLLUSION ADDICTION 910514 To avoid becoming entrapped in patterns of dishonest behavior, we need to understand at some level the dynamics of how patterns of dishonest behavior seduce people to become participant victims in the patterns. Legalists make rules which they use as means to manipulate people who are less powerful than they are. Potential victims of manipulative legalists see what might happen, and seek to defend themselves against being manipulated by legalists. One of the unfair rules which legalists make and use, is the rule which says that their potential victims should always be honest. The potential victims of such a rule at some intuitive level see the probable use which legalists are likely to make of that rule; i.e., they are likely to use it to seduce potential victims to be honest about how they have broken legalists' other rules so the legalists will be able to justify themselves in punishing those who show disrespect for the legalists' system of rules. Thus the potential victims of the legalists and their system of alienative rules, feel that they must break the rule that one must always be honest, they must break it in order to defend themselves against the manipulations of the legalists; thus they are dishonest in an effort to protect themselves against legalists' manipulations. Potential victims of legalists become dishonest to protect themselves against the manipulations of legalists. Once dishonesty is used as a defense against manipulations of legalists, it is hard not to use dishonesty as a tool to achieve other apparently worthwhile goals. Tools which have been found to be useful in one situation, invite exploration to see if they may be useful in other situations. When dishonesty has been found to be useful in defending oneself against manipulative legalists, it is tempting to look for other situations in which dishonesty might be a useful tool. We get ahead in life in large part by how we impress other people in favorable ways. If dishonesty is a useful tool in some situation, it might be a useful tool in gaining control of how we impress others. We may find it useful to become dishonest in order to deceive others into having a favorable impression of us. We move from using dishonesty as a tool of self defense against manipulative legalists, to using dishonesty as a tool of self advancement in a competitive environment. Once we become aware of how dishonest can be used to deceive others into having a favorable impression of us, we fear that others may be using dishonesty to deceive us; and so we move to prevent that; by requiring others to be honest with us, through some system of legalistic rules and regulations which are to be enforced through punishments appropriate to the infractions. Once we have made this additional move, we have become manipulative legalists ourselves; but we cannot tolerate that thought, and so we make rules which protect us from such a thought. To defend ourselves against the pain of recognizing that we have become legalists, we engage in collusive games of mutual self deception within which we deceive ourselves into believing that we are not improperly using dishonesty. We blind ourselves and each other to the consequences of the dishonesty which we use in our efforts to get ahead in our competitive environment. We have become participant victims in a collusion, in some form of addiction and/or in some form of codependency. See the preceding essays for further consideration of these issues. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================