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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9009251.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DISHONEST RATIONALIZATION COLLUSION ADDICT DEPEND 900925 Addicts and their codependent supporters are not simple minded; they are usually very bright and intellectually competent people. They are effective manipulators of people's ways of perceiving themselves and others, and so they are able to achieve some degree of control over how people behave by achieving some degree of control over how people see themselves and others. They do all their manipulation in instinctive ways which are not open and obvious to themselves or others; it is a native skill which is NOT consciously developed through any formal program. The manipulative programs of addicts and codependents depend in essential ways upon effective manipulation of the truth; that which is true may be made to appear to be false, and that which is not true may be made to appear true. People are manipulated through the manipulation of appearances of truth and falsehood. The tools of addicts and codependents include: 1. Ambiguous tacit threats of damage upon failure of others to cooperate in the collusive games of mutual self deception. 2. Ambiguous tacit promises of rewards upon proper cooperation by others in the collusive games of mutual self deception. 3. Rationalization of processes of ignoring essential truths in favor of less essential truths--- making such dishonest shifting of attention to appear reasonable. 4. Rationalization of processes of treating questionable truths as beyond question, while treating paradoxical truths as obviously false by focusing attention upon contradictions and reductionistic logic. 5. Rewarding people who focus their attention in ways which divert attention away from the central embarrassing truths which the collusions seeks to avoid. 6. Punishing people who call attention the central embarrassing truths which the collusion seeks to avoid. 7. Weaving the above activities into a fabric which appears coherent, reasonable and worthy of respect. 8. Placing masks over those aspects of the whole which cannot be made to appear coherent and reasonable. 9. Ridiculing those people who do not become participants in the collusive games of mutual self deception. 10. Letting fear of the truths which they are trying to avoid motivate and lead all feelings, thoughts, actions and reconsiderations. In a paradoxical way all the activities form a coherent pattern which generates profound disintegration; beginning with the disintegration of truth and progressing through the disintegration of participating persons and their communities. As disintegration progresses, more and more effort and creativity must go into making the disintegration appear to have integrity, and to be worthy of respect; and so tension and disease mount as the ultimate collapse of the whole incoherent structure approaches. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================