blog traffic analysis
This is http://www.essayz.com/a9006251.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONSEQUENCE MOTIVATION OBJECTIVE BEHAVIOR DECIDE 900625 The consequences of our actions flow from our motivations, as well as from our overt objective behaviors. It is dishonest to pretend that we can control our own and other peoples's behaviors, emotions, perceptions, and thoughts so that consequences always flow just from objective behavior, and never from intentions and motivations which are not objective in character. Such pretense is often motivated by a desire to effectively play games of mutual self deception in keeping with the attitudes and beliefs of addicts and codependents. The whole belief system of addicts and codependents is predicated upon the possibility of manipulating the external environment to meet all internal needs. Such manipulation must of necessity involve dishonesty, deception, pretense, and misleading behavior---the success of which all depends upon hiding the motivations from the people who are being manipulated. It is assumed that it is possible to engage in objective behaviors which manipulate effectively by virtue of concealing the personal motivations of the objective behaviors. Such an assumption flies in the face of the ability of children to see right through such deceptive efforts, and to read the motivations of the actors like an open book. The reality is that people often are aware of each other's motivations, even though there are no objective pieces of evidence to which they can point in a scientific way to justify their perceptions. Only people who do not want to know each other's motivations are systematically unaware of each other's motivations. Only people who are active participants in games of mutual self deception succeed in keeping themselves unaware of what each other is trying to do; deception of this sort always entails a significant amount of cooperative self deception. Such deception is not so much due to manipulations of others, as it is due to manipulations of self's perceptions and the lack of self perceptions. The success of collusions is due to reflexive behaviors; not due to objective behaviors. Scientists who act as though the success of their programs of manipulation depend only upon objective behaviors without regard for the reflexive motivations and behaviors of participants, are themselves participants in collusive games of self deception. Only those who are participating in such games fail to see what is happening. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================