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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9006031.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %INTERPRET IDEALS VALUES DICHOTOMY BLOCK INTEGRITY 900603 Any given statement of an ideal or value is likely to be interpreted in quite different ways by healthy people on the one hand, and addictive/codependent/collusive people on the other hand. An agreement on a string of words which appear to state a common ideal or value is not the same as an agreement on what attitudes, assumptions and behaviors are congruent there-with, and thus the perceived meaning of the string of words is not likely to be the same. People who are addicted to games of dishonest manipulation to achieve control are not authentically seeking to come to a common understanding about what is really meant by a string of words pointing to some ideal or value; they are playing games with words, not seeking to use words as means to promote authentic intimacy. Legalists place much emphasis upon strings of words because they know how to use strings of words to achieve their manipulative goals. To them words are manipulative tools, not facilitators of intimate communication. Healthy people do not use words as manipulative tools. For healthy people words are means for the facilitation of intimate dialogue which is essential to meaningfully satisfying personal relationships. Legalists seek to achieve a successful manipulation of people with prescriptions and proscriptions which help them avoid vulnerability. Healthy people seek to transcend such dishonesty manipulations by using words to reveal themselves to each other as they really are, feel, desire and fear. If we surrender to legalists' preoccupation with legalistic prescriptions and proscriptions, we become addicted to manipulative procedures just as they are. No laws are the means to salvation. Salvation is enjoyed in the transcendence of all laws in honest ways which fulfill the legitimate purposes which any laws might serve. Such transcendence cannot be captured and controlled through the use of any string of words. The word of God is not contained in any authoritative string of words. The word of God is revealed in the presence of people who are the incarnation of God's power to overcome alienation through the offering of secure opportunities for open and honest dialogue. Their presence transcends any string of words they may use and the power of any such string of words. Their presence is not manipulative. Their presence is coherent with the presence of God and participates in the power of the presence of God. God is not the great manipulator or controller. God is the great lover. Great lovers are not manipulators or controllers. Great lovers set people free to be themselves with personal and communal integrity. Beware of people who are compulsively concerned with manipulating strings of words as if the strings of words were holy and/or contained great power. They are likely to try to use strings of words as tools to manipulate people. They are not great lovers. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================