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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %COLLECTIVE ADDICTIVE DISINTEGRATIVE BEHAVIOR EVIL 900527 Addicts engage willfully in both individual and collective behavior which is disintegrative of others, themselves and their communities; but they are not honest with themselves or others regarding their own motivations, attitudes, or disintegrative values and ideals. Collectively addicts encourage each other to seek to be faithful to their disintegrative values and ideals; helping each other continue to be participants in their collusive games of mutual self deception with much preoccupation upon external conformity and control. They work together to make disintegrative activities appear to them to be honorable, respectable, and worthy of encouragement. They believe that they are motivated by external situations, events and conditions; but are unaware of their own confused feelings, thoughts and attitudes which tragically mislead them. They seek to be in control of other people, just as they feel they are controlled by other people. Control is perceived as originating outside themselves. They do not conceive themselves to be unique creatures able to be themselves and to relate openly and honestly to each other. Addicts perceive many statements of healthy people to be crazy; making no sense. Healthy people act in ways which are totally beyond the understanding of addicts; for healthy people are not preoccupied with issues of external control, impression manipulation, and proper conformity. Healthy people have accepted themselves and each other as present unique creatures who may enjoy each other's presence as they are in dialogue now; not as they might conform themselves to appear in impressionistic relationships. Healthy people are being themselves in each others' authentic presence. They value openness and honesty as being essential to intimacy in which they can enjoy each other. By being themselves they promote personal and communal integrity. Addicts are trying to be whom they think they must appear to be to be accepted as proper persons. They value secrets and dishonesty as essential tools of mutual manipulation by which they can escape the threats of intimacy in which they might become exposed as not being authentic. By focusing upon manipulative control they destroy their own individual integrity, other individuals' integrity, and the integrity of whole communities that they drag into disintegrative behaviors. The roots of the violence of war are to be found in many addictive attitudes, values and ideals. We will not transcend war until we learn how to honestly recognize those roots and deal with the ways in which they are nurtured by dishonest acceptance of addictive behaviors as being worthy of respect, encouragement and support. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================