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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONFUSION CONSEQUENCES DECISION ACTION ADDICT HELP 891206 When one person feels that another person should not suffer the consequences of their particular decisions and actions, there is bound to evolve some confusion regarding the consequences of such particular decisions and actions. If the consequences of the particular decisions and actions of Jack are that Jill intervenes and compensates for the foolishness of Jack; then the ultimate consequence is that the Jack fails to learn what the natural consequences of foolish behavior are; and instead learns to continue behaving in foolish ways of by being dependent upon Jill for regular rescue service. Jack is not helped by rescues which confuses him about the natural consequences of his foolish behavior. Being totally protected from the natural consequences of our repeated mistakes is not helpful protection. We need to learn from our mistakes if we are to avoid repeating our mistakes. Repeated mistakes are doubly mistaken. Repeated mistakes may be the consequence of meta-mistakes made by people who seek to protect us from the consequences of our mistakes. Meta-mistakes are mistakes which entail the internalization of misleading ideals, values, principles, goals, myths, etc. A meta- mistake is a grand scale mistake which misleads us to make many mistakes of similar kinds, because the meta-mistake blinds us to the consequences towards which it and its consequent repeated mistakes lead us. It is a meta-mistake to believe that we can helpfully control other people; their feelings, beliefs, opinions, expressions, decisions and actions. Once we have made that meta-mistake, we are led into making many repetitious mistakes in trying to achieve such control with the best of intentions and convictions. We are also likely to try to control our perception of the consequences of our mistakes, so that our perceptions lead us to believe that we are doing "good" in our efforts to control others and ourselves. We are likely to perceive those who challenge our good works as being evil, and as a threat to the good order which we are trying to create through our efforts to be in control. Under such circumstances we are unable to perceive our meta-mistake or its consequences. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================